February 27th, 2015
posted by [syndicated profile] wapsisquare_feed at 05:00am on 2015-02-27
February 26th, 2015

Posted by Monica Roberts

'Today is the 3 year anniversary of the death of 17-year-old Trayvon Martin. RIP.'
Today is the third anniversary of the death of Trayvon Martin at the hands of George Zimmerman.

February 5 would have been his 20th birthday, and I would hazard a guess that today is just as hard on his parents as his birth date is.  It's even harder when less than a day ago the Department of Justice announced that they wouldn't be pressing charges against Zimmerman for Trayvon's murder.

Zimmerman may have gotten away with murder, but for all intents and purposes he's earned a life sentence in which he'll have to constantly look over  his shoulder to see if someone's going to do unto him what he did to Trayvon.

Rest  in power Trayvon.
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posted by [personal profile] redbird at 06:52pm on 2015-02-26 under , ,
This time the delay is because I spent most of Wednesday traveling.

Another brief post, because I read a lot while visiting [personal profile] adrian_turtle, and they were mostly her books so I can't check things.

Recently read:

At the Relton Arms, by Evelyn Sharp. Finished this on the flight to Boston. Despite some undercutting of romance cliches, overall was not impressed. For some reason I want to quote Lady Bracknell, though in this case the good do not all end happily, nor do the bad end unhappily.

Some of the Best from Tor.com, 2014 edition. What it says on the tin, a collection of short stories. Free download from the publisher's website, convenient as a kindle book for travel. I enjoyed most of these, and skipped a couple that didn't grab me quickly; one oddity is that the stories are arranged alphabetically by author name.

The sweetness at the bottom of the pie, by Alan Bradley. Adrian lent me this, after Mrissa recommended it somewhere. A murder mystery from the viewpoint of a ridiculously precocious 11-year-old girl, who is in love with chemistry and has no idea of why it might be a good idea to give information to the police rather than try to find the answers before them. I enjoyed it, but a person could easily find the narrator irritating and not amusing.

I am half-sick of shadows, by Alan Bradley. If you liked the first you will probably like this one. The title is from Tennyson, who I don't care for, but all the quotes after the epigraph are from Shakespeare, who I do. I wouldn't have read these two books so close together except that my shoulder was doing an odd thing that had me selecting books partly by size and shape, which reduced the number of choices.

At the Bertram Hotel, by Agatha Christie; another Miss Marple book, different enough from the two I read recently that I enjoyed the similar style and time spent with Jane Marple rather than finding the stories too much alike. (This one courtesy of the Arlington library.)

Nurk, by Ursula Vernon ([livejournal.com profile] ursulav), a short illustrated adventure book about a vole ("Nurk" is his nickname) who stumbles into an adventure after getting a letter intended for his famous grandmother. I kept reading funny bits aloud to Adrian (because I was laughing as I read, and she asked for the funny bits), leading her to say that she would probably reread it. This has a somewhat different tone than Digger, but I suspect will appeal to many of the same readers, though this is a book with illustrations and Digger is a graphic novel.

Perfect Gallows, by Peter Dickinson. I picked this up thinking it was a detective story; it's much more a character study than a mystery, though it starts with the discovery of a corpse and ends with an explanation of what happened. The viewpoint character is at least close to being a sociopath, whose self-justification is that his art as an actor is more important than human connections or feelings. There's also a fair amount about 1944 Britain and the effects of the war on the civilian population. There might be an interesting comparison with Sayers's The Unpleasantness at the Bellona Club, but it would take someone with more/different critical skills than I have to do more than say "these have some things in common, and might be overlooked by people who don't usually read detective fiction."

I also read and enjoyed an unpublished novel that turned out to be the right length for a Boston-Seattle flight.

Currently reading:

The Just City, by Jo Walton
posted by [syndicated profile] transgriot_feed at 02:00am on 2015-02-25

Posted by Monica Roberts

February 19th there was a memorial held for Kristina Gomez Reinwald AKA Kristina Grant Infiniti on an unseasonably chilly (for them) Miami night at the Torch of Friendship.

They had a nice turnout for the event, with Arianna Lint commenting on Spanish language TV and our glamorous sis Lauren Foster not only taking part in the event at the Torch of Friendship, also getting some media face time on our community's behalf on their local CBS station.

One thing that marred the ceremony was flyers passed out by the Miami-Dade PD seeking information in the case had an unflattering pic of Kristina and misgendered her. 

Miami area trans peeps are on the case and doing the education with the local po-po's to let them know where they screwed up and ensure it doesn't happen again.

As for the search for justice for Kristina, her killer is unfortunately as of this writing still at large

Anyone with relevant information regarding Kristina Gomez Reinwald’s death is asked to call Miami-Dade Crime Stoppers at 305-471-TIPS.

And as always, will be keeping you posted with any developments in this case and the other trans murders as I receive them.
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My reaction to the contrast between here and Boston is weird: snow back east, cherries and other early trees in bloom here. Bright and cold above the snow versus warm, gray, and damp. Arlington looked more "normal" to my eye than Bellevue; I think that's as much architecture as weather.

I flew back yesterday (all went smoothly except that the airplane seat made my back hurt). Exercise this morning, and then PT after lunch. Both went well; the only change to the PT is that I am now supposed to do the arm-as-pendulum stretch in three different ways instead of two, and the isometrics were easier than last time. Also, this was the first morning in a while that I haven't felt a need/desire for an NSAID. I had a brief twinge while waiting for the bus after lunch, but only brief, despite the exercise and all.

(ETA: So of course I wrote that, did a bit of other stuff on the computer, and started to sort some laundry, and another twinge. By the time I got over to the sink to take a naproxen, it was feeling okay, so I am holding off for now.)

Apparently I drafted but never posted an entry from Adrian's computer, several days ago. The title of that was "Greetings from the snowy East Coast" and I'm dropping it at the bottom of this, partly for my own reference:

I am told that as of this weekend, Boston has passed 100 inches of snow this winter. However, I apparently picked the exact right time to travel: my flight from Seattle arrived slightly early, the roads were okay (though the cabbie was annoying for unrelated reasons), and it was nice enough Thursday for me to happily go to Davis Square with Adrian, who had an appointment: tea, Diesel's special apple cider with whipped cream (sounds weird, tastes good), and falafel, linked by walking around on a sunny day. It's supposed to get cold overnight, though, and I suspect everything that melted today is going to be a slick mess by morning.

Mostly I have been spending time quietly with [personal profile] adrian_turtle, reading and talking and such; the party we had hoped to attend yesterday was canceled because while the roads are fine, parking is still a mess.

exercise details, nothing exciting here )

Posted by Monica Roberts

Back on February 20 I was in a discussion with another activist about the number of people we have lost to anti trans violence.   When she started listing the number of people who have died so far this year, she included someone who died because of a fatal silicone pumping incident.

That started a debate between the both of us in regards to whether people who die from silicone pumping should be recognized at a TDOR event.

I argued NO, and here are my reasons why.. 

The reason the TDOR was founded by Gwen Smith in the first place back in 1999 was because we had an epidemic at the time of trans murders, no or blatantly transphobic and crappy coverage even from gay media about it, and we trans peeps were starting to forget the names of the deceased that dated back to the 70's.

That's why the TDOR was created.  To memorialize the dead, ensure we didn't forget those people who were violently taken from us  basically because they were living their trans lives, begin building a historical record that it was happening, create an event that would attract media coverage about the issue and give our allies a way to support us.

The event quickly went international because we live on all inhabited continents on this planet and anti-trans hate and violence is an international human rights issue.

While silicone pumping and the cis and trans people who die from it is a problematic issue that I have covered on these electronic pages since  2006, the fact remains that unlike a murder, the person who dies from silicone pumping, knows the potential risks of pumping, knows that people have died because of it, but still chose to do so.

The pumper may be charged with murder or a crime after the fact, but the pumper isn't forcing that person against their will to plunk down the money to undergo a procedure that they may not survive.

Silicone pumping deaths, like suicides, also generate their own media publicity, unlike trans murders.

A silicone pumping death shouldn't be elevated to TDOR list recognition.  Just as with suicide deaths, they are a separate category from trans people being murdered for who they are, and it is what the Transgender Day of Remembrance needs to continue to focus on.

The TDOR does not need to 'evolve' as I was told in that conversation I had with this particular activist, it is executing what it was designed to do. 

So why mess with the success of the TDOR or attempt to alter its Prime Directive?

So no, silicone pumping deaths do not need to be counted in TDOR stats, nor should they be recognized at a TDOR event now or into the future.
posted by [syndicated profile] transgriot_feed at 12:00pm on 2015-02-26

Posted by Monica Roberts

IMG_0729“I thought they were the party of ‘family values.’ Show me where that’s true? Ripping families apart? I thought they were the party of ‘economic prosperity.’ Show me how that’s true, when we know from study after study that one of the greatest things we can do for our economy and job creation is get people out of the shadows so they can go buy a home and hold a good job. They (Republicans) can’t or won’t pass an immigration bill. They will not do their job. So when the president steps in and does his job, they say, ‘Oh, this is terrible! Let’s shut down a totally unrelated department. The Department of Homeland Security.”
-Sen. Barbara Boxer

Too bad Sen. Barbara Boxer (D-CA) is retiring in 2016.

She called out the Teapublicans in a blistering 20 minute floor speech that took them to task for the off the charts hatred of President Obama among other subjects that those of us sick of the GOP have long called their butts out for.

And yes, I have the video of Senator Boxer handling her US senate business.  Enjoy the verbal smackdown  she delivered.
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posted by [personal profile] liv at 03:12pm on 2015-02-26 under
So when I was composing my post about PDA I intended to include in the discussion my reaction [personal profile] thingswithwings's post on I don't like X but. And the post got a bit out of hand, so I didn't have time to get to that discussion, so I'm adding it here.

This is a very meta sort of post, I'm talking about talking about potentially charged topics. So I'll at least mention violence including sexual violence, and I will also refer to sexually explicit including kinky stuff. I don't expect to go into lots of detail about anything, but those will be the topics. And now I'm being the centipede because the whole post is about how I should phrase this kind of description of what I'm about to write about and of course I've made myself completely self-conscious about doing so.

with that said )

Right, that ended up being not quite coherent. Let me put it out there anyway and see what people think.
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posted by [syndicated profile] revlyncox_feed at 07:28am on 2015-02-26

Posted by Monica Roberts

As I like to say on these electronic pages, karma not only is a you know what, but she wears a dress and stiletto heels.

Right now I'm pondering the situation of seeing another one of Fallon Fox's loud and wrong transphobic critics get karma's high heeled foot planted squarely in the crack of her behind.

When we last heard about Ashlee Evans-Smith, she was basking in the afterglow of an upset win over my fave women's MMA warrior in the finals of a 2013 tournament and then being a sore winner about it, which Fallon called her out about later.

Evans-Smith parted her lips to say at the time that Fox should be barred from women's MMA because of 'unfair advantages'.   
"I don't feel like Fallon should fight dudes," she said. "I don't feel like she should fight women. I feel like there should be a unique organization for those needs. She did have an advantage. She definitely did."
So sayeth the cis woman who just got caught cheating.

Yep, you read that last sentence correctly.   After her December 6 debut in a UFC 181 match that she lost in a first round submission to Raquel Pennington, Evans-Smith tested positive post match for the diuretic hydrochlorizide, which is on the World Anti-Doping Agency's banned substance list.

In addition to being fined 30% of her $8,000 purse, she is retroactively suspended from UFC competition for nine months.  In addition, Evans-Smith will be required to submit to a Nevada Athletic Commission sanctioned drug test at her own expense before she can reapply for a license to fight in Nevada.

Can you say 'hypocrite' boys and girls?   Thought you could.

posted by [syndicated profile] transgriot_feed at 12:00am on 2015-02-26

Posted by Monica Roberts

TransGriot Note: This is a Black History Month post I wrote for the Transgender Law Center blog.


'Those who have no record of what their forebears have accomplished lose the inspiration which comes from the teaching of biography and history."
Dr. Carter G. Woodson

I come from a family of historians that includes my late godmother Pearl Suel, who ran the Houston chapter of the Association For The Study Of Afro-American Life and History that Dr Woodson founded.   The local chapter is named after her.  As my mother and late father's high school history teacher, Ms Suel passed that love of history to my parents, and as their eldest child I was instilled with a deep love of my people's history and an insatiable curiosity to continue to seek it out.

One of the first questions I asked after my 1994 transition that wasn't gender related was, where is the history of African-American trans people?   What did my forebears accomplish?  What did they do to contribute to the advancement of trans human rights and knowledge of trans people while living their own complex trans lives?

These are questions that led me to seek out that history and eventually found TransGriot in 2006 as part of my ongoing effort to disseminate that history and tell the stories of trans people who share my ethnic background.

#WeExist., and what better time to point that unassailable fact  out than during Black History Month?

In a community which is being ravaged right now by over 18 murders since June, it's comforting to know that one of the people who jumped off the Stonewall Riots in 1969 was a girl like us in Marsha P. Johnson.    It's fantastic to note the story of African-American gender variant kids who 50 years ago this April launched the Dewey's Lunch Counter Sit In and Protest in Philadelphia to strike a blow against anti-trans discrimination.

It's fascinating to read the story of trans man and gospel singer Wilmer Broadnax, know that we had a trans girl like us in Althea Garrison elected to the Massachusetts state legislature in 1992, a JET Beauty of the Week in actress Ajita Wilson and had trailblazing leaders like Marcelle Cook-Daniels, Alexander John Goodrum, Dawn Wilson, Dr. Marisa Richmond, Lorrainne Sade Baskerville and Gloria Allen just to name a few.

Cant' forget that when the first all-trans performance of The Vagina Monologues happened in LA back in 2004, Valerie Spencer was part of it.

It's also wonderful to know that Black trans women rocking runways and photo shoots didn't start with Isis King or Arisce Wanzer, but Tracy Africa Norman who shot five ESSENCE magazine covers and had major print ad contracts in the late 70's and 80's.

It was also a revelation to find out via the Google Books online JET and EBONY electronic archives the first ever person that completed the now closed Johns Hopkins gender program was an African-American trans woman named Avon Wilson.   It was also inspiring to read the story of Carlett Brown as she attempted in 1953  when the world's attention was focused on Christine Jorgenson to become the 'First Negro Sex Change'.  

While we never found out if it happened for Carlett, we do know it did happen for Delisa Newton..

It's also inspiring to note the stories of people like Jim McHarris, Georgia Black, Lucy Hicks Anderson in an era in which the trans word wasn't around to label their lives.

We also have the stories of people like Lady Java striking the first blows against the odious LAPD Rule Number 9 and Miss Major, which will soon be documented for posterity on the silver screen.

Black trans history makers are in our midst today like Janet Mock, Laverne Cox, Kylar Broadus, Diamond Stylz, Dr. Kortney Ziegler, Kye Allums, Fallon Fox, Tracee McDaniel, Dee Dee Chamblee, Tona Brown,  Rev Louis Mitchell, Angelica Ross and some Texas based blogger y'all may have heard of.

And yes, Black trans history also includes the stories of my trans sisters across the African Diaspora like Audrey Mbugua of Kenya, and my trans sisters of African heritage in Brazil, Great Britain, Canada, and the Caribbean.

Black trans history is also vitally important to point out to cis Black people, our allies, and our detractors we not only exist, but our lives are part of the kente cloth fabric of the African-American community.

We also need to pass this history down so that it serves to inspire the next generation of trans kids who are following in our footsteps, and point out Black trans people have a legacy and possibility models they can be proud of..
posted by [syndicated profile] wapsisquare_feed at 05:00am on 2015-02-26
February 25th, 2015
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Posted by Monica Roberts

Sunday morning I made sure to get up and head over to the gayborhood for a bittersweet event.

It was the last Sunday service that Pastor Lura N. Groen would preside over as the head of Grace Lutheran Church.

She's been the pastor at Grace Lutheran since 2003, but I only met her last year during the fight to pass the Houston Equal Rights Ordinance.  

She knew yours truly through my writing on TransGriot and when we finally met, it was mutual admiration.

I love her as one of the progressive pastors in this city who is an unabashed drum majorette for justice, and that theme resonates in the numerous sermons she would preach during Grace's open and affirming services.

There was one humorous and touching moment during the service when Grace's choir sang a special version of 'Season Of Love' from the musical Rent

While Sunday was the last day she will preach at Grace Lutheran as their pastor, thankfully she will still be around H-town and in our progressive community lives.

She's taking a sabbatical and in addition to doing some reading and writing, will take on assorted ministry projects, doing some preaching around town along with officiating at some weddings and funerals as Grace begins the search for a new pastor to guide their church congregation.

Pastor Lura's presence will definitely be missed at Grace Lutheran, but I do wish her along with all who love and admire her nothing but success and abundant blessings as she continues her ongoing faith journey

Posted by Monica Roberts

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Don't pop that champagne cork in the Bluegrass state concerning the unjust Bathroom Bounty Bill's demise just yet. 

Never underestimate the GOP's desire to hate on groups they don't like.

The Teapublican haters in the Senate Education Committee regrouped, waited until Sen. Gerald Neal (D-Louisville) and Sen. Julie Raque Adams (R-Louisville) were not in Frankfort, then called a snap meeting of the committee Monday night to revisit the issue.

And this time they also made sure they had the transphobes speaking in front of the committee

"I know of several girls at my school who are uncomfortable with my school's policy but are afraid to speak out about it because they know the school's not on their side and they're afraid of judgment by their peers," Christina Kelty told reporters. "I thought those girls needed a voice."

Umm hmm.  Being a transphobe and an oppression enabler should ALWAYS make you uncomfortable, Christina

The bill shadily passed out of committee 8-1 with the lone NO vote belonging to Sen. Reginald Thomas, D-Lexington, who is the other African-American senator on the committee.

He also said this reminded him of an era when white students were uncomfortable using the restroom with Black students

The unjust bill now advances to the floor of the Teapublican controlled Kentucky senate (26-12 GOP edge), where we'll see if they waste valuable time in this legislative session debating it instead of passing a state budget.

But alas, it seems as though the 21st century Republican Party always has time to pass unjust laws that enable bigotry and oppression instead of govern..

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posted by [personal profile] twistedchick at 07:57am on 2015-02-25
1. We are most familiar with tales of leaving, of exploring, of going outward and seeking new places and new lives: Star Trek TOS, the pioneers seeking Manifest Destiny, every exploration story. In some ways stories of growing up fit into that -- because it is leaving one phase of life to which a person cannot return, and going into the unknown. (Life is like that.) Also, it's a very individualistic shape of story -- you can have more than one person on the adventure, but it is not necessarily the adventure of a community. The Fellowship of the Ring was a group adventure but not a community. Tolkien doesn't really show us the inner lives of communities, only a bit of hospitality as we pass by.

This is also the story shape that seems to have the most cardboard characters and stereotypes. This is one-dimension country: The Gunfighter. The Girl Left Behind. The Hero. The Villain. This is melodrama country, move-em-through-the-plot country, never mind the inner life of anyone --what inner life does The Terminator have?

I am not sure if Ferris Buehler fits in here or not, but Hercules and Xena do. Ferris is neither fish nor fowl nor good red herring, sliding in and out of adventure and community -- individualistic, not quite coming-of-age, but in the greater community of Chicago which is wrapped around him like the air he breathes.

(I have always disliked the phrase "coming-of-age". It is as awkward as "adolescence" -- not another favorite word -- how does one adolesce? Coming-of-age. Who is coming? Is age coming? Which age? If you want to say someone is growing up, why not do that? The phrase is even more grandiosely and inappropriate when applied to technology. What's it going to do, go interface with the wrong protocols and slurp too much current? Or hang out on Wi-Fi and get an iBook pregnant with iPods?)

2. Stories of communities into which change comes sometimes hide under other narratives. Gone With the Wind is a community story -- the stranger bringing change is visibly Rhett Butler, but even more so the Northern troops in the war. It is far more the story of a besieged community enduring and continuing through and after a war than a story of one willful girl who grows up during three marriages and running a business and a farm. If it had only been Scarlett's story, it would have been a lot easier for someone to write a reasonable sequel -- but whoever tried to do it had to contend with all of the community aspects, and bolted, taking the story to Ireland and dropping her into a different culture and community, without the ability to make it real.

The Quiet Man, with John Wayne and Maureen O'Hara, is an excellent someone-comes-to-the-community story, a story of coming home to a place he hadn't been before. (Thank you, John Denver.) Northern Exposure is a community story, with Joel Fleischman as the new person who becomes part of the community but is always a little way off from the center, watching what happens.

Star Trek: The Next Generation has the shape of both community and exploration.

Under the Greenwood Tree (the only happy thing Thomas Hardy ever wrote, I think, and a fine movie) is about community, and love.

3. Communities don't have to be huge to have change come from within, or attempts to change that don't really go places. The Lion in Winter gets to be a family story, a community story, and a Christmas tale -- as well as a story with richly drawn people who see no need to hide their emotions. Ordinary People is really excellent for showing change from within a community, and richly deserved every award it got -- I know Tim Hutton does good things in his later series, but I hope some day he gets to do something with as pure and deep emotion as he had in this movie.

Star Trek: Deep Space Nine was a community story where change happened from within: the commander becomes a religious leader, the bartender's little brother grows into a hero, people fall in love and out of love and into and out of relationships, and it all affected everyone.

4. We don't do much with generational sagas any more -- not in the mainstream. It occurs to me that that may be the only place where there is a fourth shape of story: the spiral. Things happen, and over time they come back and happen again, in a different way, to the next generation. Histories fit into this, particularly ones where nobody has learned anything from the past.

(Please note that I am not commenting here on Game of Thrones. Aside from the undeniable fact that I pitched volume 1 hard against the nearest wall 50 pages in -- gratuitous cruelty does not entertain me -- I doubt that anyone in this series lived long enough to learn much.)

But the Outlander series by Diana Gabaldon does fit into this shape, after eight books. People who showed up early on in minor roles returned in larger ones, doing other things; individuals grew, changed, learned or didn't, and time went on, and wars went on and patterns repeat. This is spiral writing -- several communities, people who move among them, and repeating patterns. And context, always context. I don't think you can have a spiral shape without a chokeload of context -- a thickly woven tapestry in which you know that this person is going to be really upset when he learns X because of all the things that have happened in the past with Y and Z and A and B. The communities are also clearly drawn -- the military units, the Scots settlers on Fraser's Ridge who have to draw together to survive, the family back in Scotland, and the others.

(Yes, I know the author has "ideas" about fanfiction that are inappropriate, considering that this saga started out as a kind of Doctor Who fanfic. Mozart made bad jokes too, and Beethoven had terrible tempers and even worse breath. People are not all one thing. It is possible to appreciate a writer's characterization while disliking their opinion, just as one can appreciate Cary Grant and Grace Kelly in 'To Catch a Thief' without wanting anything to do with Hitchcock's obsessions.)

Dorothy Dunnett's Lymond Chronicles are also spiral works -- multiple communities, people and groups moving among and between them, a significant time span in which actions and attitudes are repeated. And they show the other characteristic of a spiral work -- the main characters *must* grow and change over time. They cannot be cardboard. This isn't Nancy Drew country, but story arc and story web country. The Vorkosigan series lives here -- the major communities are Barrayar and Miles's mercenary fleet. So does the Foreigner series by C.J. Cherryh, with a plot like a thicket with vines that glow. Patterns on patterns on patterns, a three-dimensional tapestry, with characters that have depth and that grow and change over time. Multiple communities, multiple viewpoints, layers on layers like a tartan onion...

... hmm. I think I'd better get breakfast.
posted by [syndicated profile] revlyncox_feed at 08:08am on 2015-02-25
posted by [syndicated profile] transgriot_feed at 12:00am on 2015-02-25

Posted by Monica Roberts

Saw this trans themed Keep Calm poster and it inspired me to write this commentary about it.

Love your transgender friends because in some cases, you may be the only person in their lives who loves them unconditionally.

And how important is that unconditional love?    In a world in which we turn on the TV, our smartphones or our laptops and hear the leader of one major world religion compare us to nuclear weapons, an almost weekly report of another transperson being killed somewhere on the planet, others claiming we're confused, politicians gleefully oppressing us, and having every jerk with a Facebook or Twitter account spouting their loud and wrong scientifically deficient opinions about us, nice to know that someone cares about us and wants us in their lives

So yeah, it ain't easy being trans, especially at a time in which when we are on the cusp of a human rights breakthrough and our legions of haters know it.  

Some of us are so deeply wounded by all the negative stuff that has happened to us we will find it hard to accept that unconditional love at first.   But keep holding those arms out to embrace and envelope us in that unconditional love anyway.   Sooner or later we'll drop our guard and make the cautious moves to accept it.

Having people in our lives cis and trans who unconditionally love us is vitally important, and those of us who know the value of those friendships are deeply appreciative and thankful to have them.

And if you take the opportunity to love your trans friends, you'll be pleased to discover that it's a mutually beneficial experience.

Keep calm, and love your transgender friends. 
Moni definitely approves this message.
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posted by [personal profile] synecdochic at 03:30am on 2015-02-25
Day 5: we still have a river pouring up out of our sidewalk. (we're beginning to call it 'the water feature'.)

The city keeps apologizing that they haven't gotten anyone out here yet -- apparently they're dealing with crises all over the place and they've got all the available crews and all the contractors they can activate fully booked -- but man, if they try to charge us for the thousands of gallons that we've gone through since Saturday, I'm gonna have to happen to someone.

It says something about the week we're having that this is still not the worst thing we are dealing with right now.
posted by [syndicated profile] wapsisquare_feed at 05:00am on 2015-02-25
February 24th, 2015
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Baitcon 26 will be held on August 28th-31st, 2015
at the Mountain Campground of the Abode of the Message.

Why Change the Date?
The severe snow and ice this winter has impacted everything in the Northeast – roads, public transportation, roofs, buildings of all sorts (both inside and out), school schedules, etc. Last week, the Abode staff shared some concerns about the potential impact to our site due to the weight of the snow on various buildings and structures and also the possible ground conditions in June. As we are always the first event of the Mountain Campground season, many assessments and repairs are often in-progress during our event. This year, it seems more than likely that many spaces may be unusable even in late June.

Why August?
This was the only available Abode’s only other available weekend this summer. Our new date, much like our traditional date, is sandwiched between many wonderful things. This year, Baitcon 26 will be right after Worldcon and right before Burning Man and Labor Day weekend. This unique date offers us all a chance to experience the Mountain Campground at a different time in the summer, celebrate before kids go back to school.

Registration will open in late May this year. The same go/no-go condition we always have for Baitcon will still apply despite the date change: we need at least 120 paid adult registrations to meet our minimum attendance guarantee and go forward with the event.

We know that many of you many have already planned around our traditional late-June date. We’re sorry about that and we hope you can still join us this year. If you have questions, please email us via this address: exec AT baitcon DOT org

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Posted by Monica Roberts

RiddleFigured it wouldn't take long before our right wing idiots decided to not be left out of the hate on transpeople party.

It's also another example of what I continue to say in terms of the most dangerous bigot is the one with the power to write legislation.

Teapublican Rep. Debbie Riddle has just filed HB 1748, an odious bill that if it becomes law,  would make it a class-A misdemeanor punishable by up to one year in jail and a maximum $4,000 fine for transgender people to use "a locker room, shower facility, or toilet facility designated for use by persons of a gender that is not the same gender as the individual’s gender."

Damn Debbie, don't we have better things to spend our valuable Lone Start State legislative time on besides obsessing over what bathroom trans people use?

Really makes me wonder why you white conservatives continue to express this deep seated need to oppress people.

Riddle's HB 1748 would also make it a state jail felony punishable by up to two years in prison and a maximum $10,000 fine for a building manager to "repeatedly allow" a transgender person to use such a facility according to their gender identity.

What's even more interesting is how this scientifically illiterate bill defines gender:


Hey Debbie, would love to see you lead by example and volunteer to do a chromosome test.  I and every other Texas trans person would laugh our asses off if you came up anything but XX.

This caca is why my hatred of Republicans grows the older I get and with every legislative session they propose bills that repress everyone else except white conservative males. 

I also get pissed off when some liberal progressive person stupidly says in my presence that voting is a waste of time.   Sitting out elections is why this scientifically challenged person is in the Texas Legislature now.

Looks like a trip to Austin is coming soon.  And Texas transpeeps, time for us to saddle up and become agents of our own liberation and fight this crappy (pun intended) bill.

But it also evidence that the trans human rights movement is winning if the best that conservative opponents can do is go back to recycled for the new millennium Jim Crow tactics and attempt to criminalize the bathrooms once again.

Posted by Monica Roberts

Another day, another panel discussion for me as I head this time to the University of Houston Downtown for one entitled 'Challenging Intersections: Exploring the Struggles and Triumphs of African-Americans in the LGBTQ Community(ies)'

The panel sponsored by Stand Out is another Black History Month event that will be a discussion about being Black and TBLGQ.

It will feature Fran Watson, Brandon Mack, Ashton Woods, and some blogger y'all may have heard of.

The panel will start at 3 PM and will be if you can attend it will be in room N420 on the UHD campus.

See y'all in a few hours Gators!
posted by [syndicated profile] revlyncox_feed at 08:44am on 2015-02-24

Photo-a-day prompt for UU’s Practicing Lent for today, February 24, 2015.

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posted by [personal profile] twistedchick at 08:34am on 2015-02-24
I awoke this morning thinking about how stories can be considered tales concerning directions and movement. The viewpoint character often, but not always, determines the direction; sometimes the community in which the events happen is itself a character as much as the individuals. And I am thinking of story in the broadest sense here -- any narrative, any memoir, any folk song or tale.

The directions or movement that I saw, with some examples:

  • 1. Stories of leaving, in which it matters that someone has left familiar territory and is encountering different/dangerous/exciting/transformative things that would not have occurred had this person stayed home:
    ---------- the Odyssey (coming home is an adventure)
    ---------- Huckleberry Finn (going down the Mississippi, where the raft is home and nothing else is)
    ---------- Thelma and Louise (leaving home, being changed, not going back)
    ---------- the song Northwest Passage (wanting to go back)
    ---------- As You Like It (exile in the Forest of Arden)
    ---------- Due South (exile in Chicago)
    ---------- Stargate (movie) [the TV shows go in several directions]

  • 2. Stories of staying in a place, where change comes in from outside because something or someone new arrives
    ---------- Pride and Prejudice (home is the Bennett house, but also the social/familial circle in which the girls move -- and it matters in what way they leave or expand it.)
    ---------- Shane (the modern version of the ur-tale in which Someone New And Mysterious Comes And Changes Things)
    ---------- Much Ado About Nothing (The Prince and his men come, and nothing is the same)
    ---------- The Music Man (Harold Hill stirs things up)
    ---------- Any war story involving a siege that is told from the viewpoint of those besieged, including (somewhat against my better judgment) the Alamo.

  • 3. Stories of being in a place where change occurs from within as much as from without (which often might be community-based stories, in which the community itself is the character),
    ---------- Broadchurch (BBC series -- how does a community react to the murder of a child?)
    ---------- To Kill a Mockingbird (book and movie)
    ---------- Romeo and Juliet (Montagues, Capulets, and I bet they were all related six ways to Sunday because nobody gives you worse trouble than your relatives)
    ---------- King Lear (what was I saying about relatives?)
    ---------- Any story with a vision, vision quest or new understanding of How Things Have Been or Can Be that changes a community -- an example of this might be Hamlet. Tales of inventors and inventions would fit here -- Tesla, Edison, Robert Fulton, Steve Jobs.

Viewpoint matters, in the shape of this. The Odyssey is Odysseus's story, type 1. -- but if Penelope's story were told it would be type 2. If it were told from the viewpoint of Hector, Cassandra, Hekate and Priam, it would be type 3. In the movie Troy, I loved that they showed Paris down in the bottom of the castle shooting arrows, and also the scenes of family and community life there. That is the story we never truly hear, because Homer spoke from the viewpoint of the attackers, and the gods.

But I am thinking of this not as a set of bins to use for categorizing things as much as a set of shapes and patterns for helping to understand story possibilities while writing. Maps, if you will. Is this story migratory, moving back and forth or flowing toward the sea? Is it a mountain that is settled into place while things happen? Or is it volcanic, bringing forth new and interesting/alarming events and ideas?

Other people have probably already done this at length and better. Thoughts? Ideas? Comments? References?

ETA: History (as we are told it) often varies between a hero story and a 'place where' story. Tourism is based both on type-1 hero stories ("Let's follow the travels of this hero from place to place") and type-2 location stories ("This is where this particular thing happened"). It's possible to follow Bonnie Prince Charles's path across Scotland, but also to get the whole story from its ending at Culloden (I find it difficult to consider Charles Stuart a hero of anything, but many of his followers certainly were.) Traditional stories (Grimm's tales) seem to tend toward 'place where' because they were community-based stories, "this is the place where that happened." ("This is the rock from which Wilhelm Tell leaped when he swam across the river to escape prison and free Swiss people," I was told while sitting on a restaurant patio near water --can't remember *which* water now, it was 40 years ago.) Another personal example of 'place where' is seeing Chateau Chillon, with the low gate by the lake where prisoners were brought into the dungeon, and then re-reading Byron's "The Prisoner of Chillon." More locally, the area around where I live is full of historical sites from the Revolution and Civil War -- lots of "this guy came here and did this" and "stuff happened here and this is how the community responded".
posted by [syndicated profile] wapsisquare_feed at 05:00am on 2015-02-24
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posted by [personal profile] sorcyress at 11:45pm on 2015-02-23 under
I have danced three days in a row, and I didn't realize just how very badly I needed that.

Among other things, I was feeling quite ill for the two hours prior to Scottish tonight. I very nearly didn't go (and made jere7my and I a little late by not even getting out of the house until like 7:15) but the Spider Monarch kicked in and pointed out that it was probably a combination of not having eaten enough today and having stared at the screen for several hours.

"some fresh air and exercise" they suggested "would be good for you. You can read Cracked later, and we don't need to refresh Tumblr for a tenth time this hour."

So I grumbled my way out the door and down to Davis and by the time I got on the train I was feeling completely fine (or at least, completely cold which had the nice effect of making me forget my other physical unhappiness). And then I got to the CanAm, where it was double social hour. I missed the first dance, but then, out of the eleven remaining dances...I danced nine of them! That's a better record at Scottish than I've had in *months*.

I think a lot of the energy came from last night at Demo team, where we danced a *truly* fantastic jig called "MacLoud's Wedding". 5 couples, 48 bars, and it has *eight* four bar half-reels in it, to beautifully scramble, and then un-, the set. Oh gosh, the whole thing just flows like a dream, even though the fourth couple ends up, at one point, at completely opposite corners of the set.

It was a dance that was smart, and elegant, and bouncy, and joyous. I mean, I almost always enjoy myself while dancing Scottish, I wouldn't do it otherwise. But sometimes I find a dance that makes me smile the entire time, that makes me abandon such mortal thoughts as weariness and fly.

So I was feeling a little bit revitalized towards the whole idea of Scottish Dancing, and then we kept winding up with almost enough dancers on the floor and oh we just need one more couple.... So I danced a lot, and it was wonderful and social and enthusiastic.

Gosh, and Stephen and I wound up dancing together twice. We're ruined for actually dancing together, I suspect, given how much we kept raising our eyebrows at each other or whispering advice from our candidate class tutors and very nearly breaking into giggles. Oh! And we almost managed to convert the setting figure from Montgomeries Rant into a lovely highland mess --my fault we didn't, I forgot which way to turn and we stuttered. But seriously, balance-balance pas de basque, repeat, PdB PdB, four highcuts. NONSENSE!

Today, I am happy. Help me continue that happiness by writing me porn! (deadline is "very soon")

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posted by [syndicated profile] wapsisquare_feed at 12:40am on 2015-02-24
February 23rd, 2015

In what ways are you creative? For journals this week (or for quick answers here), when and where do you apply your inspiration, problem-solving, and sense of beauty? What creative processes do you engage in regularly?

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posted by [personal profile] liv at 08:12pm on 2015-02-23 under
Various bitty things to record what I've been up to lately:

diary )

Also, congratulations to [personal profile] randomling who correctly guessed that what I was thinking of in Pessimized Twenty Questions was Croatia. [personal profile] randomling, you're of course welcome to start a new round if you like, but perhaps a single game was enough, playing by comment discussion. Honourable mention goes to [personal profile] seekingferret who played with great cunning, coming up with informative guesses and not getting trapped in assumptions based on what had been discovered so far.
ETA: [personal profile] randomling started another round, do go and join in!
location: Cambridge, England, UK
Music:: FKA Twigs: Two weeks
Mood:: 'cheerful' cheerful
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posted by [personal profile] marnanel at 03:24pm on 2015-02-23
In answer to someone complaining about people complaining about Valentine's ( http://catvalente.livejournal.com/434149.html?page=3 ):

I don't *want* to take happiness away from anyone who's happy on Valentine's day-- why would I want to take happiness away from other people? Good luck to them! But *I* hate Valentine's day because it reminds me of the years and years of Valentine's days filled with loneliness and despair, and if I allow myself to think about it, I'll fall apart. I suppose "triggering" is the word I'm looking for. Maybe one day I'll get over that, and I really don't like being this bitter, but for now I hate Valentine's day because of what it does to me. Every. Single. Year.
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posted by [personal profile] filkerdave at 09:30am on 2015-02-23 under ,

The new toy rides like a dream. I'm still having a few issues with proper control and higher speeds, so I never really got off the green slopes, but it was FUN! Only went down hard twice and only one of those was my fault.

The first time, I heard someone behind me shout "Excuse me!" just before he clipped me and I went down on my butt. This annoyed me, because one of the rules of the slopes is that the skier (or boarder) downhill has right-of-way so he should have been avoiding me. Also, I was close to the left side of the trail and he went around me on my left. There was TONS of room on my right.

The second time was on the last run of the day and that one was entirely my fault. I was down in the final section, and because I'd had to go between people I was heading a little straighter down the trail than I normally would (because I had to go through people, I decided to brake a little. The mechanics are pretty simple; turn either heelside or toeside down and the board rides sideways a little. Except when I turned toeside I caught my heelside edge and went head over heels down the slope. Nothing hurt but my pride but I'm glad I wear a helmet.

The other thing was that it was warm, really warm. The temperatures got up to 45F/7C. By the time I'd done a few runs I was dying in in my heavy jacket (which was good enough to keep me warm on a windy 11F/-12C day) and had to go to the ski shop to buy a lighter jacket (just a shell, really. With the base layer and tee shirt, that was fine).

GREAT day on the slopes!

[EDIT: 2015-02-23 17:50 NY Time]: Fixed a spelling burp.
location: Uniondale, NY
Mood:: 'cheerful' cheerful
posted by [syndicated profile] revlyncox_feed at 06:53am on 2015-02-23

No place like it. Hope yours is safe and warm today. Have fun with this photo-a-day prompt.

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Mondays, every week, let's celebrate ourselves, to start the week right. Tell me what you're proud of. Tell me what you accomplished last week, something -- at least one thing -- that you can turn around and point at and say: I did this. Me. It was tough, but I did it, and I did it well, and I am proud of it, and it makes me feel good to see what I accomplished. Could be anything -- something you made, something you did, something you got through. Just take a minute and celebrate yourself. Either here, or in your journal, but somewhere.

(And if you feel uncomfortable doing this in public, I've set this entry to screen any anonymous comments, so if you want privacy, comment anonymously and I won't unscreen it. Also: yes, by all means, cheer each other on when you see something you want to give props to!)
posted by [syndicated profile] wapsisquare_feed at 05:00am on 2015-02-23
February 22nd, 2015
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posted by [personal profile] sorcyress at 10:26pm on 2015-02-22 under ,
Trigger warning: Emotional and sexual abuse.

I just want to get through one fucking anniversary without remembering.

One hour and thirty four fucking minutes, I was so close.

It was like my fucking unconscious was just lying in wait to ruin me, I broke thirty minutes ago, but it was just a regular trigger break, just being hungry and suddenly overwhelmed that I endured1 this terrible awful thing and that it hasn't fully gone away and it will never fully go away.

And that's when my charming brain pipes up. Because fuck having nice things to celebrate today. Fuck the birthdays of people I care about, fuck good anniversaries2, I don't get to have that. February twenty-second is the day that I got together with my fucking awful abusive rapist boyfriend.

And I was only 94 minutes away from forgetting that fact.

I don't think I can be kind to myself today.


1: Words are intentional. The Kat who came out of it is very different from the Kat who went in. She's older, and in many ways better, but...

some days I don't think I can say I survived.

2: one of my closest friends is five years cancer free today. yay.
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posted by [personal profile] jbsegal at 10:22pm on 2015-02-22 under ,
On the fluffy side: If they ever let NPH not host, they're idiots.
But I wouldn't be posting if it was just that.

What I mainly came here to say was:
Holy SHIT, Glen Campbell's "I'm Not Gonna Miss You" - written after his alzheimers diagnosis - is a total gut punch of a song.


If you have lost anyone to dementia/alzheimers/degenerative brain disorders... I strongly suggest sitting down 1st.


location: Home
Mood:: gobsmacked
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posted by [personal profile] gorgeousgary at 08:43pm on 2015-02-22 under , , , ,
Thanks to a well-timed invitation to speak at a meeting of $EMPLOYER's Oregon chapter, held in Bend, I was able to make it to Saturday and Sunday of Conflikt. I had a great time, but the weekend was one big experiment in sleep deprivation. For various reasons, my best choices for flights were all early departures - 8:20am, 6:15am, and 8:05am for the IAD-to-RDM (via SFO), RDM-to-SEA and SEA-to-IAD legs, respectively. Which meant I had to wake up at 5:30am, 4:15am and 5:30am to make each of those. The things I do for both my job and my hobby (*grin*).

The con was excellent. It was great to see AJA, Cecelia and Toyboat again (even if Gundo did make sure to play "Wagon Wheel" *twice* for me). And of course all the fine Northwest folks like Jeffrey and Jeri Lynn, CD, JT, Andrew, Dawn, Betsy, Sunnie, Char and Randy, Vixy and Tony, Steve, Colleen and Naomi, and Dara. Plus Kathleen, Judith and Dave, Harold, Josh and Lisa, Bill and Carole, and Paul and Beth. And a long list of other folks I'm probably forgetting. Got a decent amount of singing in, including a 2-fer. Picked up a cute handmade stuffed Totoro from the Interfilk auction and a catnip toy covered with Star Trek logos (titled a "DiNipium Crystal").

My offering was accepted by Nova within five seconds of my tossing it on the bedroom carpetin front of her. A few minutes later, she was batting it around and chomping on it out in the hallway outside when Luna came creeping upstairs. She stopped about a foot away from her sister and immediately started rolling around on the floor. Contact high! Obviously they make some good nip in Washington State. 8-)

Meanwhile, Boskone was somewhat of a mixed bag, and not just because of the snow and chilly temperatures. I enjoyed myself, participating in two panels (songwriting and performance tips) and a re-run of the Fantasy and the Sea Shanty panel. The filk circles were a little smaller than usual but still quite fun, and I was able to catch up with lots of friends. At the same time, between three program items in four hours and an early Valentine's Day dinner on Saturday (to accommodate a Concertino meeting), I missed several program items I would have liked to attend with authors I would have liked to have seen, of which there were unusually many at this year's con. (For example, I totally missed James Cambias, whose A Darkling Sea I enjoyed). We were able to catch Fran Wilde (who Sheryl knows from Buffistas.org) on a Fantasy Bestiary panel and I caught Max Gladstone's reading. We also snuck away from the Saturday filk to catch the Silly Cover Poses session - at which I saved one attempt to recreate a fantasy cover by grabbing one of the plastic trays the hotel had put out for empty glasses and offering it to one of the participnts to use as a shield.

Meanwhile, I was able to escape the cold and snow for a couple of days by flying out to San Diego for a workshop on resilient construction and communities. Took a red-eye home Thursday night since we supposedly had some commitments for today and I didn't want to get home later on Friday. As it happened, our commitments got cancelled due to the snow. Oh well. Took care of a few other things that Needed To Be Done and knocked several items off the DVR.

Posted by Monica Roberts

The whitewashed Oscars ceremony gave me the opportunity to handle some more eagerly anticipated business by you loyal TransGriot readers

It's time to announce the five people or groups that will join the previous winners of the TransGriot Shut Up Fool Lifetime Achievement Awards.

I usually retire the winners of the SUF Lifetime Achievement Awards from future consideration for the weekly award, but some of the winners of it have continued to make asses of themselves to the point I have to call them out on it.

Okay, enough jibber-jabber, time to turn this over to our Shut Up Fool Awards mascot and reveal what fool, fools or group of fools become members of the Shut Up Fool Awards class of 2015.

The envelope please:

The 2015 Winners of the TransGriot Shut Up Fool of the Year Award are:

Dinesh D'Souza
Rudy Giuliani
Phyllis Schafly
Speaker John Boehner (R-OH)
Pastor James David Manning

Congratulations to all the losers winners.

And now,  a final word from our mascot.
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posted by [personal profile] sorcyress at 05:29pm on 2015-02-22 under , ,
I just closed 17 tabs about lobsters!

Why did I have 17 tabs open about lobsters? Well you see, I was at a party which had about 12 people all in the same room. This was enough that we were mostly having multiple small conversations at a time, but sometimes they would converge into one big conversation.

JB and I were having an excellent discussion on whether you can make lobsters flip upside down using iron filings and magnets1, and other people were discussing the history of hamster dance vs whistlestop. Out of the corner of my ear, I hear [personal profile] ratatosk say the phrase "English Country Lobster Dance".

Okay, that's a fucking beautiful phrase. I want you all just to take a moment and say it aloud to yourself, because it really is a lovely thing. Almost immediately, the conversation turns to what a great thing that would be, and a heartbreaking disappointment when it is revealed that a google search for such nets no results.

Conversation continues for three or four minutes. WAIT! I say suddenly, loudly. My fingers fly into action: [lobster dance capering and kickery]. AH-HA! I declare! Of course! The Lobster Quadrille!

We very nearly rolled up the rug and danced it then and there, but alas, it requires being by the seaside, and also, lobsters. But between citing my sources about lobster-magnetism, and searching up some Charles Dodgson texts, I wound up with 17 open tabs about lobsters.

It was a very good party.


1: I was mentioning a Fun Fact that my dad told me ages ago, that I wasn't positive was actually true, because while my dad is mostly a legitimate person, he is also a dad. Anyways, SOURCE MO'FOS! If you raise lobsters in a space with iron filings instead of sand, and then hold a magnet above them, they will flip upside down! I leave the "how" as an exercise for the reader.
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posted by [personal profile] twistedchick at 01:50pm on 2015-02-22
This is what a real editor should be.
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posted by [personal profile] misschili at 03:40pm on 2015-02-22 under
 Last night, Per and I hosted a dinner for his brother, his brother's wife, and two of their cousins. The cousins' significant others, called kaereste, couldn't come along. 

Per had made lasagna and pecan pie, which were delicious, but which left me with some questions about the histories of those dishes which I'll look for in good time. A question came to mind... Okay, me being me, there were a lot of questions, which I couldn't or wouldn't share with the attendees. But one of these questions had to do with heavy, sweet wine that I'd taken about 2.5 sips of before I just couldn't drink more.


It had nothing to do with mice (mus) or cats (ummm... cats), but the name reminded me of a drink called muscatel, which I only vaguely remember as a super-sweet drink for the lower classes of society. 

At any rate, that meaning whatever alcohol level the wine was, it was truly disgusting to me. Ah well, live and learn.

One other thing learned last night was not (NOT!) to drink coffee after dinner if I'm not prepared to stay up for most o the night.

posted by [syndicated profile] revlyncox_feed at 06:17am on 2015-02-22
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posted by [personal profile] sorcyress at 01:29am on 2015-02-22 under , ,
I am in a pretty serious "everything is terrible" right now space. Lots of reasons, but really, the big one is that "everything is terrible".

But you know what?

I am a stubborn-ass survivor. I am a fighter. I am too good for my brain to pull This Kind of Bullshit without lashing out wildly at it, just out of, you know, _spite_ or something.

So today, I lashed out by doing a little bit of room cleaning (mostly of the "put everything in piles to deal with later" variety) which resulted in a completely clean desktop (YES YES YES YES YES GOOD). And then, once I had my completely clean desktop (to stand on, natch), I realized I could finally put up the index card with the quote from K˚ that I made when he visited1.

But before I did, I remembered that I had been meaning for a couple weeks to make some more cards, mostly because I've been listening to a lot of s00j lately and she sings good yes2. So I sat down and did that, and then I put them all up, tucking them into the grid of the drop-ceiling and pinning them to the tiles.

That was about when I realized that I have some posters I've never found the opportunity or space to put up. And I still had all this leftover ceiling. Then after those were done, I realized that I could run ribbon through my collection of origami dodecahedrons and hang those up by my PHiZZ torii5. And then I realized I could take some of the insect fabric Sparr got me and hang it above my windows.


And that's gonna go a _lot_ towards coping with the fact that "everything is terrible".

Pictures under the cut )

My room feels less like a bedroom and more like a studio right now, and that's just about the best thing I could possibly do for my mental health, I do think.


1: I keep index cards on the ceiling above my bed. You can see an original collection of them here.

You don't get to know what K˚ said to me that I found so significant unless you come to visit and I let you in my room and you get in a place where you can read all the cards and you figure out which one is from him. But I have been meaning to blog about it.

2: Reference post for where the phrasing "you sing good yes" comes from. I have gotten a little better at reconciling s00j-as-person with sooj-as-singergoddess. Gosh, I mean, I even waltzed with her3 last time I ran into her (at Balticon '12). Also, it has become a little more important to my life as a whole to complete that reconciliation. For, you know, reasons.

3: I can say of my bite that it's worse than my bark.4

4: You wanna know why I don't do subtlety? Because this is a simple example of the way I work. No one pays enough attention to follow this thread. That's intentional, only usually it matters, so I don't draw attention to it (or even do it in the first place).

5: Toruses?

6: Dodecahedrons are powerful. Like, do not mess with them they will fuck you up powerful. Building them is a good thing, destroying them is a TERRIBLE thing, and while they can affect all aspects of life, I believe they most strongly influence travel. Hence my musing that I could unfuck the T some by building more.
February 21st, 2015
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posted by [personal profile] synecdochic at 09:48pm on 2015-02-21
Went into the bathroom to pee. Ginny followed me, climbed into the pants that were at my knees, eeled her way through my underwear, and curled up in the crotch of the pants and refused to move.

Eventually I just wiggled out of the pants and left her there in them, then picked them up (with her wrapped up in them) and put them in the laundry basket :P
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posted by [personal profile] synecdochic at 12:16pm on 2015-02-21
We have water again! ...unfortunately, so does an ever-increasingly large portion of the street.

(The meter was what froze, and now that it is unfroze, it is leaking. Vociferously.)

On the other hand, we have water again! I was getting tired of flushing the toilet via bucket. And it's starting to snow, so I'm really glad we have the water back.

(For the record, if it ever becomes relevant: if you've got old toilets that use loads of water like we do, don't manually flush by filling up the tank and then using the handle: you will waste a lot of water like that. Instead, get a bucket of about a gallon or so, and pour it into the bowl fairly quickly but not violently (to avoid splashing). Gravity will take care of the rest.)

Hospitality: I had a tough time deciding which photo to submit to the UU’s Practicing Lent Tumblr for today.

I went with the one at the top, showing the front door to our building, painted red as a sign of welcome. The UU’s of Fallston is a warm congregation where people who are not accustomed to receiving welcome can find it. I know every church says that, and I won’t evaluate the accuracy in general, but I can tell you it’s true at UUF. 

The middle picture is from the Greater Baltimore Area UU Cluster event that we hosted in the summer. This was our cluster’s first big project: A UU Music Festival, featuring artists from five or six different congregations in Harford County, Baltimore County, Baltimore City, Carroll County, and Howard County. The crowd got bigger than this, but this was the last picture I got before our day turned into night and I wasn’t able to get the lighting right. The festival was intentionally outdoors so that we could invite the wider community to celebrate with us - our lawn is visible from the intersection of two relatively busy roads. UUF is the smallest congregation in our cluster by membership size, and I think we did a pretty good job as hosts.

The bottom picture is from the UUA General Assembly in Providence, RI, last June. The UUA sponsored one evening of WaterFire, which is an arts festival with 12-16 events each year to engage residents and visitors in downtown Providence. The UUA’s sponsorship supported a fun and engaging event available to the whole city, and it helped form connections between UU’s and non-UU’s. The photo is of the Emma’s Revolution concert at one of WaterFire’s outdoor stages. I think this event was a mix of the city welcoming UU’s and UU’s welcoming others, with the greater emphasis being on Providence’s hospitality to our group.

I also considered posting something about a time when I have received hospitality and gave nothing back, but most of those were food pictures and/or had pictures of people who might not want their image posted. The interdependent web supports me and embraces me in more ways than I can even know, and certainly more than I could repay.



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