dglenn: Me in kilt and poofy shirt, facing away, playing acoustic guitar behind head (cyhmn)
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A bit of a grab-bag entry (er ... as though that's anything unusual) as I try to get ready for Pennsic.

Baitcon: I mentioned that there were lots of folks I was glad to see, and that the "folks I don't see often enough" category is too large. There were too many members of that category present for me to get to talk to everyone I wanted to. I'm glad of the chance to catch up with the ones I did manage to. I really need to plan a road trip to Boston (and several other places) once I have a car again.

On the whole I had a great time -- meteorological, culinary, musical, and social aspects were all wonderful -- and my body only "stole time" from me by forcing me to rest-more-than-healthy-people when I would rather have been making music or being social, rather than wiping out my weekend entirely. It was frustrating but I'm trying to recalibrate my expectations. (Much like the past couple years at Pennsic where I've had to pace myself in such a way that I get about a week worth of Pennsic in the two weeks spent there. Getting more folks to come hang out in my camp would help summat.)

After Baitcon: my right wrist has been excruciatingly painful since sometime on the way home from Baitcon. :-( Enough so that perhaps it's just as well that miscommunication interfered with my getting to 3LF rehearsal this week. I did find a position in which I can play bass guitar without aggravating it farther, but I'm not sure I can play double bass right now, and really vigorous strumming on guitar (like I do in HCB) would be a major problem. I've no idea what I did to it, and am feeling rather impatient about its healing, since I'm concerned about being able to play when it's time to perform.

Pennsic whoops: The somewhat Rube Goldberg shipping arrangements for a package I need from London, Ontario fell through. (The "fault", if one can be said to exist, lies more with the fragility of a plan involving so many steps, rather than the failure of any one person trying to do me a favour; also, my own lack of foresight in getting things moving early enough to compensate for glitches.) This has the potential to make my Pennsic significantly uncomfortable. I don't suppose there's anyone who could arrange to bring me two weeks worth of certain Canadian goods on such short notice? (Specifically the generic version of Reactine [Zyrtec] which I know I'm going to want in that dusty, smoky environment, and codeine+caffeine+acetaminophen tablets [unless a version with ibuprofen instead of aceteminophen exists], which I very much hope not to need, but am very likely to given that Pennsic is a bit rough on my body. The Reactine has to be the plain version, without any decongestant -- 10mg tablets preferred, though I can double up on 5mg pills or use a pill-splitter to chop 20mg ones in half.)

And not really a 'whoops', though I do wish I'd thought to ask earlier than this: is there anybody in my area (Baltimore) not going to Pennsic, who has a 12V deep-cycle battery that I could borrow for two weeks? Merely a convenience, as opposed to the rather more pressing medical needs in the preceeding paragraph, but hey, if it works out ...

And a little-whoops: I'm still looking to trade a 128MB Memory Stick Pro that I can't use (actually it's a Pro Duo in an adapter) for a 128MB or even a 64MB Memory Stick not-'Pro' that I can use. I meant to try to arrange such a trade for Baitcon but forgot.

Not related to anything in particular (1): Every so often a friend sets up, or tweaks, their custom filters to show journal entries on different topics to different people, and there's usually a round of "which filters do you want to be on?". If I'm actually getting around to reading everything and commenting that week, I usually say something like this, which I'll borrow [info] emeraldliz's words for because they're more concise than mine:

"I get tired of people deciding they suddenly need a dozen friends lists and asking people if they want to be on them. If I'm a friend- it's cuz I want to read your stuff. If you don't want me to read it, that's up to you. If I don't want to read it, it's up to me."

Note that I don't expect everyone on my friendslist who decides a month or a year or a decade from now to remember the Published Filter Policy of every person on their friendslist, so therefore I am not demanding that this statement be remembered and taken into account, but I figure I may as well at least put it out there just in case.

Actually, if there were an "add this user-plus-tag" option when friending someone or adding them to one of your own reading filters, then tags could be used to push the whole "opt-in filter" concept into the reader's sphere-of-control. (Even better would be that plus "except if this tag is present" as options, so that I could exclude certain only-occasionally-interesting and usually verbose subjects fom my "busy" reading filter, while still leaving them on my default view. It would have to be user+tag, not just tag-regardless-of-user, because different people use the same tag different ways.) As I've observed before, I'm sure there are folks who would like to be able to subscribe to my QotD entries without getting the rest of my journal.

Not related to anything in particular (2): I was thinking last week about what's nice about being in a place where lots of guys are wearing kilts, and was reminded of it at Baitcon when somebody made an appreciative comment about men in skirts (kilts and otherwise): It's been quite adequately demonstrated that a large percentage of women really like seeing men in kilts or in skirted garments in general. Not all of these women will be attracted to me, but in an environment where there are lots of kilts being worn, the odds are that for each woman present, there will be at least one guy she finds distractingly attractive wearing a kilt within visual range. So women at such events tend to be, if not exactly aroused per se, at least a little ... "revved up", "sparkly", happy, tittilated. And even when they're not looking at me, that energy is perceptible, and I find that energy, that undercurrent of awareness-of-aroused-females-of-my-species pervading the environment, to be pleasurable in itself. I like being around aroused women. It feels nice. A pleasant glow for an empath.

Really, I've never quite understood why so relatively few cisgendered American guys (outside of the Pagan community, Celtic festivals, medieval reenactment contexts, and the contradance scene) choose to wear unbifurcated garments, given how positively -- and usually quite openly so -- many women respond when they see men wearing such things. (Admittedly, I first noticed the connection as a side effect of being transgendered, but I eventually would've caught on from being at medieval events and Scottish events, and would have realized as several of my friends and acquaintances appear to have, that kilts tend to please the ladies.)

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posted by [identity profile] the-nita.livejournal.com at 07:35pm on 2007-07-25
Generic reactin - I can probably arrange for that, if you get no other takers, but I'm only going to be there for the middle weekend on....
 
posted by [identity profile] dglenn.livejournal.com at 08:30pm on 2007-07-25
Better than nothing, if nobody else can help on such short notice, and if somebody does provide some at the start of War then I can use the surplus at home when ragweed season picks up. Thanks. Let me know how much it winds up costing.
 
posted by [identity profile] siderea.livejournal.com at 08:12pm on 2007-07-25
Really, I've never quite understood why so relatively few cisgendered American guys (outside of the Pagan community, Celtic festivals, medieval reenactment contexts, and the contradance scene) choose to wear unbifurcated garments, given how positively -- and usually quite openly so -- many women respond when they see men wearing such things.

Maybe for a lot of guys it's the visceral, unconscious thought, "No no no! I'm the objectifier, not the objectified! Wrong wrong bad wrong!"
 
posted by [identity profile] dglenn.livejournal.com at 09:27pm on 2007-07-25
How counterproductive. (Uh, assuming that one wants to improve one's chances of having one's advances accepted.)

But it makes sense in a way that explains the "not obvious to Glenn" and the "something at a level that pre-empts strategic thinking" aspects of the phenomenon. If your explanation is correct, then I guess that's one more aspect of my assigned-gender (in my culture) that I failed to learn; one more way that I'm in-between.

Hmm. Polling -- or attempting to study -- my friends on this matter is pretty much guaranteed to produce womdigious sample-bias errors, isn't it?

Thinking of it this way brings up some other things about sexual behaviour that puzzle me. (Like how a man who acts as though he expects every woman to be flattered by his attention and that any woman who rejects him must have something wrong with her, can simultaneously hold the "I'm God's gift to women" and "I'm the objectifier, not the objectified" memes. Or is it that merely being male is supposed to suffice in the minds of guys like that, so any effort expended on grooming/plumage/interpersonal-skills to become more attractive is some sort of admission that he isn't really "male enough"? Or am I completely off the rails here and asking the wrong questions?)
 
posted by [identity profile] siderea.livejournal.com at 10:22pm on 2007-07-25
Hmm. Polling -- or attempting to study -- my friends on this matter is pretty much guaranteed to produce womdigious sample-bias errors, isn't it?

Womdigious, yes.

Thinking of it this way brings up some other things about sexual behaviour that puzzle me. (Like how a man who acts as though he expects every woman to be flattered by his attention and that any woman who rejects him must have something wrong with her, can simultaneously hold the "I'm God's gift to women" and "I'm the objectifier, not the objectified" memes.

Being desired or found a good mate is not quite the same thing as being objectified, yes? For the male "I'm the objectifier, not the objectified" meme holder, the assumption is that the woman is to accept/welcome the role of being objectified. I think -- and really, how should I know -- such a man expects to be judged on his lekking behavior, not to be evaluated for his fitness as a mate. A woman is supposed to respond to what he does for/to her, not to judge him on his appearance, smell, fashion sense, job stability, etc. Hence the behaviors I associate with such men of then being affronted by women finding them lacking for, e.g. their inadequate grooming.

It never ceases to amaze me how many males can and do benefit from direct advice in books and other similar sources (e.g. "Queer Eye...") to improve their personal hygene. How is it possible for anyone to make it to the age of 20 without the idea dawning that how one looks and smells will have an effect on mate attraction? I assume there must be some contrary underlying assumption so many men have.

Or is it that merely being male is supposed to suffice in the minds of guys like that, so any effort expended on grooming/plumage/interpersonal-skills to become more attractive is some sort of admission that he isn't really "male enough"? Or am I completely off the rails here and asking the wrong questions?)

Oh, I think that is in fact true for many men. In a sense, you're asking the fundamental question, "why aren't all single men metrosexuals"? and it's a great question. Clearly there has to be a reason, since the rewards, as you note, are considerable if one presumes one's goal is to get laid.
 
posted by [identity profile] blk.livejournal.com at 09:11pm on 2007-07-25
I generally dislike opt-in filters, and try to avoid having any of my own. It's worked quite well so far.
 
posted by [identity profile] cellio.livejournal.com at 02:35am on 2007-07-26
I'm with you on the filters. I use filters to specify permissions; it's up to the reader to decide whether to actually read. I'm not offended if people pass on some of what I post; they never promised otherwise.

When do you plan to be at Pennsic?
 
posted by [identity profile] dglenn.livejournal.com at 03:09am on 2007-07-26
By noon of land-grab Saturday. I'm driving Coryn's truck again.
 
posted by [identity profile] writerjanice.livejournal.com at 06:22am on 2007-07-26
Really, I've never quite understood why so relatively few cisgendered American guys (outside of the Pagan community, Celtic festivals, medieval reenactment contexts, and the contradance scene) choose to wear unbifurcated garments, given how positively -- and usually quite openly so -- many women respond when they see men wearing such things. (Admittedly, I first noticed the connection as a side effect of being transgendered, but I eventually would've caught on from being at medieval events and Scottish events, and would have realized as several of my friends and acquaintances appear to have, that kilts tend to please the ladies.)


Interestingly enough, my son frequently wears a kilt and always has a good reaction from most people... (It helps that he fences both mundanely and SCA rapier & thus has good good legs and bum...)

A couple of years ago, he decided to wear the appropriate formal attire for one of Scots heritage to his high school Sr. prom. His girlfriend went from "I don't know" to loving the idea. Now he's at a college where their nickname is the "The Fighting Scots" and every Wednesday is kilt day. :)

So now I'm shopping for either the utilikilt or the pracikilt for his birthday... Before long, he's going to have more kilts than I have skirts...



 
posted by [identity profile] kolraashgadol.livejournal.com at 03:42am on 2007-07-27
When I was in grad school, I worked at a Borders (back before Borders was owned by Kmart) and it was a very much more laid back and interesting place in those days (and the books were better too, but I digress). One of the more interesting and better things was the variety of individuals who were employed there - one of whom was a young Korean guy (i.e. not able to claim Scottish heritage) whom I liked and who frequently wore a kilt-ish sort of skirt. I think that the reason hegot away with it, and was still considered a pretty manly guy (in a Beckham-ish way) was because something about the way he wore it made it clear that it wasn't a skirt; I'm not clear on what that was, or even -realy- why that should make any sort of difference. Maybe it was because other ways in matters of dress he wore completely unremarkable clothing (I.e. a skirt - really even a miniskirt- but with a t-shirt and hi-top sneakers, which is the sort of thing I would wear, too, but I'm also completely flabbergasted at the idea that someone who is not required to by professional standards would ever wear women's shoes or clothing - anything, in fact, made for women, other than skirts - and of them, only a limited number of types.

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